I started thinking about the definition of happiness. I quickly realized it is not an all-encompassing term. It means different things to different people, and is brought on by wide array of events and opportunities that affect us each individually. There is is no "one source" of happiness. There is no one book that can permanently enlighten us to the way of happy. There are chains of events that open up the sky and let you spin in the sun for that moment. Find any excuse to find more of those moments...it's worth it!
The trouble with happiness, I believe, is this; We can never be truly happy until we are certain that there is nothing "better" than what we have. But we can never PROVE that what we have is better or more valuable. The answer to happiness lies solely upon the faith that we are at our happiest now. As humans, we are too smart for our own good. We have the ability to ask ourselves "what if." The difficult part in that question is that there is no answer - unless you act upon it. However, that action may include a series of unfortunate events (kinda like that famous book title!) that make you regret ever asking "what if." You see, happiness should not be based on hind sight (which, if you know anything about good vision is 20/20!). Your joy should be present in the here and now - even in the face of disappointment. Not an easy task. For some reason it is easier to see what makes us unhappy, and harder to see what does bring joy.
Instead of being a grey dweller, spend your time as a Happy Hunter. Look for the reasons to smile amidst the gloom. See the joy that may appear to be wrapped in sadness or disappointment - and ask for happy. Be vocal about what makes you happy, share it with others...ask those around you what makes them happy and make it so. Sometimes the greatest joy comes from making someone elses' day. Live with the intention of happy.
I can't believe it but...writing this post kind made me feel happier than I was feeling!
Your Fellow Happy Hunter,